I plan to keep todays Fearless Friday short and sweet. It was inspired by the quotation below.
Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is the love that will be ready.
— Nayyirah Waheed
The advice above is so valuable because too many of us lack self respect. The world needs more humans with enough dignity to decide that if A cant give them what they desire, there will be B,C,D,E,F and the rest of the bloody alphabet out there ready to blow their minds.
We’re sometimes so wrapped up in people pleasing and trying give the appearance that we possess this perfect life with perfect relationships, that we don’t take a step back to evaluate our relationships and whether they really match up to our standards. People (often mostly women, unfortunately) will sacrifice their dignity to have a piece of something that is essentially worthless. Being in a relationship or a marriage means nothing if you’re being disrespected in it or even more alarmingly, its simply not what you want.
‘There are only two types of women -goddesses and doormats’ -Pablo Picasso
Respect yourself enough to demand more in ALL your relationships. If someone cant treat you well, you sure all hell shouldn’t spend a significant portion of your time entertaining whatever it is they have to offer. People will often forget your worth, the onus is therefore on you to remind them who you are and what is acceptable to you. Life is too precious to be wasted being spent with people who don’t add value to your life.
My favourite line is ‘you never have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge’. Whether it’s friends who you’ve outgrown or it someone you’re in love with who doesn’t yet have their shit together. Leave them be and move on with your life. We’re often so afraid of the unknown,that we don’t realize that so much beauty, strength, courage and love can come from it.
Do you struggle with self respect in relationships? Do let me know what your thoughts are on the subject.
Have a great weekend!x